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| Thursday, 10-May-2007 16:22 |
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Nisa'
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| Sunday, 18-Feb-2007 12:00 |
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Nisa' Games
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| Thursday, 26-Oct-2006 07:59 |
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Illya's Birthday
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| Thursday, 26-Oct-2006 07:48 |
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Akma's Birthday!
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| Tuesday, 11-Jul-2006 12:00 |
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part III- babyblues
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SPECIFICS OF EFFECTIVE ISLAMIC PARENTING
For Islamic parenting to be most effective there must be a truly Islamic society, so part of your responsibility as Muslim parents is to help recreate a right Islamic world.
Right Islamic parenting assumes a right Islamic marriage.
Parental love for their children is a Mercy from Allah, not only in humans but even in animals.
In Islam the love of a parent for their child is so taken for granted that it is not even thought necessary to state this as a requirement for parents.
In Islam the main responsibility the parent has to their child is to provide for their education (this is to be understood in the broadest possible sense, including all things that assist the child to become a good and right human being).
The Qur’an also places great responsibility on the child in regard to their parents, requiring the child to be kind to the parents, to help their parents in their old age, to never speak to their parents with contempt, to never reject their parents, to honour their parents, and to fulfill all these responsibilities with humility.
Every child should be taught from their earliest years about their responsibility as a vicegerent (khalifah) of Allah; that it is their duty as vicegerent to transform themselves into Muslims living in true submission to the Will of Allah, that it is their duty to transform all of human society into an Islamic society living in true submission to the Will of Allah, and that it their duty to transform the physical world of space and time into a garden paradise for Allah.
Raise your child to be a courageous Muslim, willing to struggle against evil in the greater and lesser jihad, as this will be necessary to create a right Islamic world for the future.
Raise your child to fully believe they will successfully create and live in a truly Islamic world, because belief is critical to successfully achieving any goal.
Anything that you believe will happen is more likely to happen because you will find ways (both consciously and unconsciously) to make sure it happens, and anything that you don’t believe will happen is less likely to happen because you will find ways to make sure it doesn’t happen; this fact is known as the ‘self-fulfilling prophesy’.
The parent should never let their love for their child prevent them from doing what is right for their child (for example neglecting to correct the child when he/she does wrong).
If there is a conflict of interests, the requirements of Islam have priority over the desires of the child (for example, if the child would rather play than pray).
Teach your child to love Allah, The Prophet, Islam, and Islamic values.
Teach your child to see all things and understand all things from the perspective of Islam.
In Islam if it becomes necessary to correct your child for some wrongdoing this must be done according to a certain hierarchy: first, explain to your child in a gentle way how they have overstepped some limit from rightness into wrong; second, if the gentle instruction does not result in the child correcting that wrong behaviour, you should indicate your disapproval of that wrong behaviour by withdrawing your favour (for example, do not give smiles, hugs or kind words to your child at such times); and third, only as a last resort, your child can be physically punished (beaten) if they do not correct the wrong behaviour.
In Islam if it becomes necessary for you to beat your child there are specific rules and limitations: you may not hit your child on the face or stomach, you may not hit your child more than a maximum of three times, and you may not hit your child hard enough to leave a cut or bruise on the skin.
You should never hit your child when you are angry, not only are you then more likely to become excessive in your punishment but doing so will teach your child that it is right to hit people when they are angry.
It is important to realize that if you reach a point where you feel it is necessary to beat your child then something has gone badly wrong, and you previously have not done all you could have done to avoid this becoming necessary.
It is a fact of learning that you cannot punish a child without harming him/her, so punishment can only become necessary if you have no positive alternative, and the good that comes from being punished will outweigh the harm you do to your child.
Remember, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) never once hit a child, a woman or a servant.
Do not argue with your child, as there is almost never any benefit in doing so.
Although your child might well choose to pray at a younger age, at seven years of age your child should be required to pray through gentle encouragement; and, at ten years of age your child can be beaten for not praying, although this circumstance should never arise with correct Islamic parenting.
Your child should be taught to memorize the Qur’an, the benefits are many and much wider in scope than is often believed in these modern times.
At every age there must be appropriate rights given to your child and necessary limits set upon your child’s behaviour, which will allow your child to fully explore their human potential while not causing harm to themselves, harm to others or damage to their surroundings.
If you see your child doing something wrong it is usually not even necessary to mention the thing that is wrong, instead, it is often sufficient (and always more desirable) only to say how much you like the right thing which is the opposite of the wrong being done.
You should not expose your child’s failings or wrongdoings in front of others, if this must be done it is best if it be done privately.
Don’t give much attention to the bad or wrong things your child does and says, but give lots of attention to the good or right things your child does and says.
You should, of course, always love your child unconditionally, but you should only express that love at times which are most beneficial to your child.
You should at all times be a model of a good and right human being (Muslim) for your child.
for more go to http://www.khalifahmethod.com/khalifahmethod_of_effectiveislamicparenting.htm 
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| Monday, 10-Jul-2006 12:00 |
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part II- babyblues
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How do you raise a happy child?
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1 Have old-fashioned, unstructured fun. …All kids need a chance to decompress, take a break from playdates and lessons, and simply play freely, letting their imagination guide them..…
2 Teach her to care. In order to be happy, a child needs to feel that she is a valuable member of a larger community and can touch people’s lives in a meaningful way. Help instill this feeling by giving her plenty of opportunities to reach out to others.…
3 Get physical. Go sledding with your kids, or play tag in the park. Take bike rides together. You’ll not only increase your child’s strength and stamina but give him reasons to smile.…
4 Laugh it up. Tell jokes, sing silly songs, poke fun at yourself. Laughter is good for your child—and for you.…
5 Be creative with praise. Don’t just say “Good job” whenever your child makes progress toward a goal or masters a skill. Be specific; point out the details that you find impressive.…
6 Make sure she eats right. …Eating well minimizes mood swings and contributes to a general sense of well being.…
7 Bring out the artist in him. You’ve doubtless heard the theory that listening to classical music boosts your child’s brain power. But exposure to music, dance, or any of the arts also enriches a child’s inner life and sense of self-worth.…
8 Smile. Flashing a big grin to your child reassures him as nothing else can. It’s a shorthand way of saying, “I love you.”…
From “12 Surprising Ways to Raise a Happy Child”
by Carol Straley for Parents magazine
for details go to http://sites.target.com/site/en/kids/page.jsp;jsessionid=MRYIFXY5CESJRLARAAV5YAA?contentId=PRD03-000263
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| Sunday, 9-Jul-2006 08:08 |
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part I- babyblues
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i juz came back from my tuition class...
hari ni ada 3 students(1 std4, 1 std5, and 1 pmr gurl)..
but, yg mengecohkan keadaan wuz all 4 cutie mutie notty boys (aged 1-4 years old)....
depa dok p kejar katak kat dalam tusyen room tuh and p campak batu kat atas dat amfibia (sian katak tuh, mati katak dia)--->katak tuh was not part of our science class though
penat kejar katak.... lapar, and dok ramai2 makan... habes klas penoh ngan nasik depa... 
then i understand...patotla there are moms yang suffer babyblues... juz like wanda in my fav comics (see www.babyblues.com)
whateva it is kids are always like that...
better cherish the moments masa depa kecik2 nih....
they are the sugar of life...
mmg tak penat tgk celoteh derang...
rumah takda bebudak seriusly sunyi (cam rumah saya)...huhu`~~~
these are some pics mase zaman kecil2 ku and banyak nya adalah anak2 sedara saya (i have more than 10) mmg jam rumah kalau raye...
ada certain dh kene conteng dgn sorg budak yg tangannyer gatal... budak baru pandai pegang pensel la katakan
insyaALLAH... kalau sempat will post more in next part
Sunday, 9th Jul 06,16:25
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| Sunday, 25-Jun-2006 01:53 |
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what a relief.... alhamdulillah!
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me and hanis sambil melantak nasik minyak
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me as midfield di apit hanis and farah di hadapan lauk pauk
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team yg perabih nasi minyak
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alhamdulillah... i just completed my first degree... yay~~~~
now.. waiting for my parents to collect me and all my stuffs...
i dunno whether i am going to miss utp or not... kalau ikut perangaiku yang dolu2... i never miss my primary school or even my secondary school itu...
but, utp is seriously a lil bit different.. i learnt so many things here... maybe i am gonna miss the ppl here but not utp as physically....
insyaALLAH... i'll come back.... probably wt master ka next year... haha takleh sambung terus... bg otak berehat sat...
doakan ku ya sahabat2...
there's so many challenges outside there...
semoga aku menjadi seorang yang tabah dan kuat untuk menghadapinya... dan terus istiqamah.... insyaALLAH
p/s: going to be alone soon...
posted: was during kenduri pakcik ecah
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| Saturday, 24-Jun-2006 12:00 |
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last day final exam! paper---> wireless communications
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graduated... yay~~~
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wif my Smart Group members
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squad serumah
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| Friday, 19-May-2006 08:27 |
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i never regret of it~~
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i never regret to become a big sister to bunch of lil sisters... plus, i should be very grateful coz i learnt so many things from em....
until now, i still can't accept the fact that i awready grown up and become the most senior in UTP... rasenye2 masih lagik terase zaman2 kanak2 ku dahulu... and i still remember how kak own and the gang were worried to leave us in campus....WITHOUT THEM!!!
but... seriously time went by very fast... and a month ago i talked to kak own..--->>"now, i know how did u feel when u wanna leave us, kak own....skang sy faham apa perasaannya" ...ianya amat berat..
huhu~~~
no worry fatihah... time and experience will teach them to become stronger and mature... just like what happen to you.... 
whatever it is, i hope that they will be better than me.... keep on the good job sys... and remember there are much more to do in campus.... let us create the bi'ah so that our campus become a better place to live... be approachable to every body!!
HEART FOR ISLAM!!!
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